Soil for the Soul
What Does It Mean to Create a Safe Space for another?
Inspired by the teachings of Ram Dass
What does it truly mean — to create a safe space for someone you love?
Someone you love can be your child, your parent, your partner, your friend. This is not just about romance — it’s about the heart’s connection in any form. Anyone you care for deeply can be held in this way.
Ram Dass once said: “A safe space means you don’t have an agenda.” That when you offer someone space to be exactly who they are — without pushing, without molding, without trying to fix — that is when love becomes fertile ground.
“You are becoming an environment, like a soil that is soft, moist and alive in which they can be who they chose to be. Not who you think they should be. Cause who are we to decide who they should be?”
“The most beautiful thing you can do for another is the work you do with yourself, so you can become that rich soil, that environment in which they can grow the way they need to grow.”
Not controlling the flower that grows there, not dictating the direction of its bloom. Just holding it, witnessing it and allowing it.
To love someone in this way means you offer presence, not pressure.
You become a ground that says, “You are safe here. You can fall apart or come together. You can become more of yourself. I will not abandon you in your becoming.”
It’s not passive.
It’s fiercely tender. Actively gentle.
It’s choosing to stay soft even when your own fears start to rise.
It’s resisting the urge to make someone heal faster or love you in return, and instead embodying love itself.
It took me decades to understand this rhythm, this flow, this appreciation in love.
It’s something I offer.
And in the offering, I come closer to who I really am.
The question I ask myself now is not “Do I feel loved?”
But rather: “Did I embody love today in my connections, in what I do, say, breathe?”
Did I love without condition? Without distortion?
Did I create a space that felt like freedom?
If so, then love is already alive — and it will do what love does best.
It will grow.
It will heal.
It will return, in its own time and way.
And I will already be rooted.
Blossom in love